How to Fix a broken relationship

How To Fix A Broken Relationship

Every relationship is precious for its own reasons. And no one can understand this better than the individuals involved in a relationship. There is so much of investment- emotional, material, time and sacrifices. Incase you have committed the folly of having broken up with your partner- it is never too late to mend things.

Before setting out to mend things, it is pertinent to ask yourself, if the relationship is worthy enough to be mended. Take time to come up with an answer and once you come up with the answer, there should not be any room for doubts or reconsiderations.

Once you are determined to mend things, you can start the process by initiating communication with your partner (if you had snapped communications!). No matter how odd or one-sided it might seem, but you know it is worth it. It should make you and your partner feel a deja vu of how your relationship started.

Relationships often sour and eventually fall apart, as the small values often get eroded which leads to misunderstanding, dissatisfaction, and intolerance. So it would be a good idea to dig up the history of your love and recall things that you might have forgotten somewhere on the way.

Once you re-discover a few of those small values and principles, you can probably inculcate them in your conversations with your partner. Although this is purely to make yourself aware of what went wrong and to not let it happen again by inculcating them. This will undoubtedly come as a pleasant surprise for your partner.

When things visibly start showing a growth, you can probably ask him/her for an outing. It is advisable not to arrange a private meeting place- which might give out wrong indications. While on outing you need not start off with your agenda about mending things. Actions speak louder than sounds.

The idea behind meeting up was to gauge the comfort level that you have re-discovered with your partner. And how eager is your partner, to strike a note with you. If you are not sure about your partner’s responses, it is safer to spill out the beans, rather than beating around the bush.

Respect for individual space, individual values, ambitions and dreams are very important. Even in our day to day lives it has a lot of significance. No matter how intimate partners are, in any relationship-yet they are individuals.

Attempts should be made to encourage and bring up the individual self in our partners. It will come out one day or the other and it is advisable to know, understand and love it rather than let it jolt us as an unexpected or even unpleasant surprise.
While mending a broken relationship, extra care should be taken not to trample your partner’s values and dreams. While comfortable communication is important, what is more important is comfortable silence. Once you attain that with your partner, half of the battle is won.

Comfortable silence helps avoid awkward attempts to strike conversations when there is not much to say, especially when you are getting back to a relationship after a significant period of blackout.

Of course, the converse is also true. There cannot be comfortable silences without conversations. If you are one of those, who is poor in striking conversations, recall events that occurred when you were separate and chose two or three events which you think should have created interest in your partner.

Whether you succeed or fail in mending the broken relationship-a lot depends on your partner. There are equal chances of failure as of success in mending a broken relationship. However this should not be allowed to deter you from attempting to mend the relationship.

The basic driving force should not be a goal to re-unite (that leaves you vulnerable to slip into depression if you fail), but the conviction that the relationship was worthy enough for all these. Eventually this leaves you with a sense of satisfaction and a lasting contentment that you did everything you could-to mend it.

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